After having 6 babies I like to think I've learned some tips on how to survive the first week postpartum. Each of my babies has brought a new challenge and a new discovery on how to make that first week more comfortable. I was still learning new things with number 6!
Here are my top tips for making that first week more comfortable. I've divided them into categories because that's how my mind organizes pretty much everything, I might just colour code them too 🙂
I'll be covering things in this order: breasts, bellies, bottoms and other.
This post is all about breasts. As a breastfeeding advocate and a successful breastfeeder I think it is important for moms to hear from other moms about what to expect, books are great but there is no replacement for knowledge handed from one mother to another. This isn't a how to guide on breastfeeding, just some things I've learned about nursing.
2. Engorgement: Day 3-4 is when the milk comes in, and when it comes, it comes! There's a good chance your breasts are bigger than they have ever been, sore and probably shooting milk out in all directions! Nothing says "Hot Mama" like rock hard boobs shooting milk all over!
What's the best way to deal with this? Nurse baby, often. Our bodies are so amazing! Our milk comes in just as our baby has his/her first growth spurt.
Even with increased feeds often times there is still more milk than baby can drink and it is important to empty your breasts frequently or you can end up with blocked milk ducts (ouch!) or an infected milk duct (super ouch!) I found that if I had more milk than my baby could drink (and I did, I could have easily fed a village!) the best thing for me to do was pump the extra after nursing and toss it in the freezer for a day in the future… like when I desperately needed to get out of the house and away from the crazy little housemates I lovingly call children.
If pumping doesn't work for you you can try hand expressing to relieve some of the pressure and to encourage those high milk ducts to empty. There are lots of people who don't think pumping is a good idea, but when done after baby has nursed it is pretty effective in reducing engorgement, discouraging blocked ducts and it can help establish a good supply because breast milk is a supply and demand system. If your body thinks baby is finishing a breast it will keep producing. So if you don't need or want to freeze milk then each day you would pump a little less and let your body adjust.
Another thing besides frequent nursing and expression that can help ease the discomfort is applying heat. Standing in a hot shower with a towel wrapped around your breasts, or soaking in a hot bath helps to reduce discomfort, it also feels nice on your other sore bits as I will talk about in part 2 and 3 of this series.
Compression, like wearing a sports bra also helps. This helps reduce how much milk you make, so be careful not to compress your breasts to the point that you are no longer making enough for baby.
The other thing that can help is massage, especially in the auxiliary breast tissue. It is common for the milk ducts up by the arm pits to get blocked, massaging in a downward motion, toward your nipple, can help encourage the milk in the outlaying milk ducts to exit, especially if you do it while baby is nursing or while you are expressing.
Not every mother has the overwhelming engorgement when her milk comes in and that's o.k.! It doesn't necessarily mean that mommy isn't making enough milk. It may just be that that mother and newborn are in perfect sync and they have sorted out the supply and demand process of breastfeeding quickly. As long as baby is peeing and pooping frequently there is enough milk.
It is also common for baby to spit up if your breasts are engorged because the milk flows quickly and they can get more than their little tummy's can handle. Be prepared 🙂 They can also have a bit of trouble breathing and swallowing at the same time when your milk lets down and the flood gates open. They can take in air if that happens so make sure they have a burp after or they might be grumpy about 20 minutes after eating because they have an air bubble in their belly that is bothering them.
3. Nipples: The first few times you nurse can be uncomfortable, but it shouldn't last. The most important thing is to make sure baby has a good latch. A good latch doesn't hurt. It can be a bit uncomfortable for the first little bit as your nipples get used to the sensation, but if pain or discomfort lasts longer than the first few sucks take baby off and adjust the latch. If pain is persisting get help ASAP, there is nothing worse than getting a blister on your nipple because it's going to hurt to nurse until that sucker heals (haha see what I did there) and it could get infected which really hurts! If it ever feels like your nipples are on fire, especially between feedings, get them checked, there is a good chance they are infected. Deal with it quickly.
Sometimes it can be hard for newborns to latch onto an engorged breast. There are a couple of things you can do to help. The first is to press areola down so your nipple "pops" up. With your fingers and thumb form a circle around your nipple and press the areola down. This just pushes all that milk back a bit and elongates the nipple to help baby latch.
You can express some milk by hand to reduce the pressure, or if you are finding that you are really engorged you can pump off some milk. This helps reduce the pressure, elongate your nipples, and start the milk flowing which can make it easier for baby to latch, especially if you have a sleepy baby.
Try different positions to help baby get a good latch.
A good tip for keeping your nipples in good form is to express a few drops of milk when you are done nursing, rub it into your nipple and let them air dry. Seriously, motherhood is ridiculously glamorous!
4. Bras: Invest in a good quality nursing bra that fits properly! Seriously, the girls deserve it. If you need to be fitted wait for your milk to come in and get fitted. This is probably not something you'll do in the first week since it is actually better to just go free and let baby nurse, but plan on getting a good bra soon!
In the same area is breast pads. There are a lot of different types out there. Stay away from any that have a plastic back or layer as they trap moisture which can lead to infection. There are some nice washable ones that are soft, and cheap, since you only buy them once. Just keep them clean and handy. Although when your milk comes in you may just want to wear a towel!
5. Set up a nursing station or 2 or more around your house. Include a water bottle and snack for you, clean nursing pads, burb cloth, book/magazine/remote, anything else you might need while nursing so you don't have to get up. Click here for a list of one-handed snacks perfect for breastfeeding.
6. Set up a sibling basket or 2 around your house. If you have older children put together a little basket that is just for them for when you breastfeed. Include items such as books, small toys, a baby doll and blanket so they can feed their baby too, and maybe a little snack. Biggies might like to cuddle while you nurse too, or help by going and getting items for you, like a receiving blanket or diaper. Of course there is a good chance they will simply ignore you too!
I think that's all I've got about boobs. Did I miss something? Let me know in the comments below!
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